How to attract your dream life without lifting a finger

Sounds crazy, right? Borderline impossible, right? How can I attract my dream life without lifting a finger?

In today's blog, I will share the universe's secrets that have improved my life and enabled me to live a life of complete freedom. 

Take, for instance, right now, I'm sitting on a lovely, comfy couch with a nice fluffy blanket over me, a dog on my lap, and the sun shining through the window. As I look out, I glance upon beautiful green countryside with horses and often deer outside my window. To top it off, I have my beautiful wife in the back room, connecting with clients and changing lives. Bear in mind it's 9 am Wednesday. I have nowhere to be, and no one to answer to. Life isn't just good; life is epic. I'm currently on my longest stretch of feeling no emotional pain; I'm in my creative energy, bills are paid, and there's nothing but goodness to look forward to. I have no hang-ups, broken relationships, and no unhealed regrets. Life is good, but more importantly, I feel good.

This isn't to brag. This is to paint a picture of how good my life is, and I couldn't write this if it weren't, but here's what I aim to do in this blog. I aim to inspire you to know that all is possible and not only inspire you but also teach you how to do the same. How did I do it? How did I go from drug addiction, deeply unhappy and completely unconscious, to conscious of my subconscious and the laws of the universe? The answer lies in self-awareness and healing. You can always expect a theme in my blogs and a foundation of teachings that will always reside in the truth of true change, and that's found in healing and self-awareness.

Today, I will be talking about the transformative power of recognising the wounds within us and healing those wounds. This process shifts us into the opposite feelings that change our lives for the better. Take, for example, the fear of being a failure; now, most of us don't like to admit defeat and own that we are failures, so we banish and push away the part of us that feels like we have failed. But by acknowledging and healing these wounds, we can control our emotions and lives. 

Failure is more than just having failed at something; failure also means to have let ourselves and others down, not to have been good enough and even deeper than that, to have been rejected at some point in our lives. If I'm a failure, then I'm no good; if I'm no good, no one wants me. If no one wants me, then I'm alone, and being alone is scary, cold and isolating. In the other breath, many of us find safety in being alone, yet deep down, parts of us yearn for connection but subconsciously hold fears around opening up and trusting others.

Emotions are complex, but a simple understanding of emotions is that they come in pairs. Every emotion has its opposite, which makes understanding them easier. For example, I can only know success because I know failure. I can only know loneliness because I know connection. The key is to recognise which ones we resist out of the pairs because that unlocks the doors to change within ourselves.

If I'm resistant to owning that I'm a failure, then the parts of me that feel like that remain unprocessed; that unprocessed emotion linking back to a past painful experience holds within it a belief. If I'm hell-bent on overcoming that belief and experience, I might become an overachiever, a future thinker, or a people-pleaser, or I might feel like I have to do it all myself. The key is to recognise what you are resistant to feeling.

But here is the secret to healing that no one talks about. When I know what I'm resisting, I know what I need to start working on because pain is the other side of that resistance. When I can access that painful part of myself, I can understand what beliefs and experiences it holds—again, using the example of failure, when I allow myself to acknowledge the parts of me that feel like a failure. In doing so, I validate that aspect of myself. The validation of that part of me takes the resistance out of me, not wanting to feel and accept it, and I can welcome that part back into my awareness. Feeling that wound, I welcome back the painful experience I shut out. I am then reconnected to not only the experience but I'm also aware of the beliefs that part holds. For example, the part of me that feels like a failure may hold deep rejection and abandonment wounds that make me believe everybody leaves me.

I might have experienced people abandoning and rejecting me forever, but why? Well, because I have an unresolved wound that holds beliefs that others abandon me so, of course, I'm going to create more rejection issues in my life because that's what I believe on a subconscious level. The only reason it keeps happening is because I resist and reject that part of myself. When I no longer reject the part of me that feels like a failure, I will no longer experience the rejection from others that plays out in my life. When I move toward healing the wound, I open up to more self-love and acceptance.

The more I work on my healing, the more I grow in self-love. Done long enough, something incredible begins to happen. I start to love all parts of me, and when I do, I no longer experience resistance in myself and my life. This is the secret to true healing. When I no longer resist my pain, I no longer resist the love that allows me to feel and heal my pain. I then begin to remember that I am love, and a deeper level of intelligence awakens in me. What I activate in that remembrance and learning through my healing is that I create my reality from the beliefs I hold about myself and life. This is why healing is life-changing: We shift from avoidance and resistance to self-love and acceptance. We shift through our healing into states of love, passion, and creativity. We open up to share our gifts with the world, and our self-awareness shifts the landscape of our lives around us.

It's not how hard you work that creates the life you live. It's the vibration from which you are feeling that creates the way you're experiencing life. By 'vibration ', I mean the emotional state or energy you are emitting. When we resist our pain, shame, guilt, and grief, we can't change anything for the better because those emotions hold beliefs, experiences and memories that shape our lives from the subconscious. Actual change starts with self-awareness and the willingness to open up and explore ourselves to find the answers to our current lives. By owning what we feel, we can work on ourselves to shift into better feeling states, which bring forth better feeling lives.

Self-awareness, community, and like-minded people are essential, but the most crucial step you will ever take is the willingness to seek change and understanding. I have never done anything drastically; I just chose to awaken within myself and take back my power to create from within. By 'creating from within ', I mean shaping your experiences and reality based on your internal state, rather than being at the mercy of external circumstances. If spirituality teaches you anything, it's first how to heal and then how everything is interconnected, and when I change how I feel, everything connected to me shifts to reflect.

So, how can I improve my life without lifting a finger? First, I must understand that there's a deep intelligence at work in the universe, and second, I must understand that we are not separate from it. We are one with it, but we can only recognise/remember that by becoming one with ourselves. That must mean we must resolve the war within us, which is the RESISTANCE to wanting to feel and take ownership of our lives. When we are one with ourselves, we are one with life, and when self-love and connection are present in our sleeves, we are present in our lives. Remember, whether you believe in spirituality or not, your life will always reflect how you feel, so if you have conflict playing out outside of you, then you have conflict playing out within. Are you ready to awaken to it and change it for the better?

However, with great power comes great responsibility, but the only thing we need to be responsible for is how we feel, not to inflict unresolved pain on others and to take ownership of the space from which we create our lives.

The question I will leave with you, the reader, is, what are you resisting? What are you fighting, and what can you not accept? That is where you will find the answers that will improve your life.

Till the next one,

Much love

David